- Hello and welcome to this week's edition of Adam Up
This week's edition of Adam Up is slightly shorter than it has been in recent weeks; we've had a short week due to the Bank Holidays and for a variety of other reasons, I've not had as much time for my usual output levels, so I have less to share with you today.
In this week's edition of this ezine, I'm talking about how to make your point effectively and how to win more arguments!! I also have a couple of new videos on subjects that are very close to my heart.
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New Videos:
a) Scientifically Questioning Regression.
b) Embracing Diversity in the Hypnotherapy Field.
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Ok, so I do froth at the mouth a bit in this first video about the use of regression in the field of hypnotherapy. There are so many elements related to this
subject matter that get me cross, and I touch upon lots of them in this clip....
If you watch this video, I think you'll understand where I am coming from by questioning the regression approach in the field of hypnotherapy. I am not trying to outlaw it, I just think people need to know more about it and it worries me that so many training schools and hypnotherapists use it without knowing the full story.
This is a subject I have written about often, and today decided it warranted a video clip. So I am offering up a video aimed at stimulating debate, and also encouraging others to find out more about the evidence base, the science, the ethics, the morals that surround ‘regression to cause’ approaches in the hypnotherapy field.
Within this video, I also really get into a couple of my favourite
topics too – knowing both sides of a debate, being able to accept and benefit from criticism, and I really get stuck into the evidence around the topics of false memory syndrome, the reconstructive nature of memory and the way that hypnosis increases the chances of distorting memories and making them more believable.
First up, here’s the article with the
video…..
If you want to read a bit more about these subjects and dive deeper down the rabbit hole, then go and read this article where I have put quite a lot of resources and articles together on this topic too, have a read here:
In this second video, I got back into having some
colour and purposely wore a ‘diverse’ tie to embody my point somewhat….
“If all economists were laid end to end, they would not reach a conclusion.” – George Bernard Shaw
There were times at the early stages of my own professional career as a hypnotherapist whereby I would
suggest that the same is true for hypnotherapists and the field of hypnotherapy in general.
My own podcast Hypnosis Weekly (which returns very soon by the way) aims to celebrate the diversity of the field of hypnosis. It is a central tenet of the podcast. Over the years I have wanted to champion the diversity of the field of hypnotherapy and show how all of us hypnotherapists and hypnosis
professionals can benefit from the spoils of the discussion, research, academic debate and the ensuing diversity.
Yet my experience of the last decade alone is such that I genuinely do not think the true depth and breadth of diversity of the hypnotherapy field is appreciated or even known by the majority of those working in it. For example, just recently, I was looking at an advertisement for a hypnosis conference which professed to being open to the diversity within the hypnosis field, the organisers illustrated this by stating that they welcomed speakers and delegates who had Ericksonian OR Elman leanings. Like that somehow encapsulates the single, central debate and nugget of diversity this field has to offer.
The most prominent academics in the field of hypnosis have debated, discussed, researched and the diversity explored and offered up does actually go beyond Erickson vs Elman, believe it or not. What’s more, the vast majority of academics and scholars would probably not really consider Elman vs Erickson as a majorly important debate. This is not meant as a slight on either of the two important contributions made to this field by both men
(I respect both greatly), but I think their work has been made much more important and central to the hypnotherapy field by frontline hypnotherapists than many researchers and major academics would think or permit. In the great many hours of literature reviews I have carried out for my Phd studies, which has included reading in detail virtually every single randomised controlled trial conducted in the field of hypnosis research, I am yet to find Elman quoted at all, and Erickson in very fleeting
fashion and only when indirect approaches are being examined and scrutinised.
Anyway, here I’m discussing if there is in fact more to the hypnotherapy field than Elman vs Erickson, and I wonder if hypnotherapists are really open to diversity and other perspectives…. Have a watch of the video:
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I mentioned it in previous editions of this ezine, I am going to be on tour a bit this year. I am coming North to Hull. I am going East to Norwich. I am going west to Cardiff. I am going to the midlands in Birmingham and
I'll be in London though the upcoming one day seminars here in Bournemouth in March are now completely full to capacity and sold out. Wherever you are based in the UK though, I hope you'll be able to access my seminars this year.My rapid inductions and hypnotic phenomena for hypnotherapists seminar is coming to all these venues, and so is my science of self-hypnosis seminar. Many of the dates are at
weekends, so there's no excuse. Each is less than £100.00 to attend (plus Vat) and you can read about the course, grab all the dates, details about course content and more by downloading a free prospectus at these two pages on my website, come and join me in your neck of the woods:
I'll be back with the Hypnosis Weekly podcast as of next week too, many of you have been asking me about it.
In the meantime, why not catch up with some of the previous editions packed with debate,
discussion, star guests, hot topics, hypnosis factoids and hypnosis in the news features:
Hypnosis Weekly Podcast.
Onto This Week's Main Theme:
How to Effectively Make Your Point and Win More Arguments
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How do you win more arguments? Well, as tends to happen within my professional
field, it is not all about shouting the loudest or refusing to listen to contrasting perspectives – when you learn to make your point more effectively, you benefit in a variety of ways and that is really what I’m writing about today.
“It is better to debate a question without settling it than to settle a question without debating it.” – Joseph
Joubert.
We all experience situations that have some sort of conflict. Especially with there being so much online discussion and debate these days, and especially when so much interpretation of the written word can occur. Many times, people are locked in position, where both sides stick to their version or demands and will not agree to any less than what is acceptable to them. Many times, one
side is unreasonable and often both are. This might happen at work, at home, at school, while shopping, or any number of other life situations, as well as the afore mention online discussions.
To win any argument, or make your point effectively, the conflict involved needs to be resolved. To resolve a conflict, it is of utmost importance to (at least attempt to) understand what causes any conflict,
and what can be done to bring a positive change to the situation.
What causes conflict? Many people typically tend to think that conflict arises from disagreement, discord, or difference in belief or opinion. Though these are symptoms, they are not necessarily the underlying cause. So, you might ask then what is the cause? The human brain has a very powerful mechanism of interpreting all of its
experiences, and this mechanism is perception. How we perceive a set of events today determines how we will react to events of similar nature in the future. Since there are never truly identical situations in life, our perception of the situation is simply a perception at the most. As is often stated in a number of ways in the field of personal development – Perception is not reality, it is only a view of the reality.
This article title mentions you can “win more arguments”…..When I write about winning an argument here in this article, it is not about coming away exclusively victorious, or point scoring – it is about making your point effectively, having your say, and doing your best for your point to be understood, taken on board and fully received. Sometimes, winning an argument might even be letting another individual believe they have been heard, understood, or even that they’ve
“won” the argument themselves. Not all discussions and arguments are like the school debating club whereby a victor is voted upon.
There are many types of arguments, and all of them involve some type of escalation between opposing opinions and points of view. Here are some strategies you could apply to make your point effectively and even win more arguments, read the article, see the references and start being incredibly more ethically influential right away:
How to Effectively Make Your Point and Win More Arguments.
I have written before and discussed in detail the way that many people discuss and argue in the hypnotherapy field, and I have even written about the use of logical fallacy to win more arguments here, I wrote this 8 years ago and it is still totally on point and you'll recognise so much of what I'm talking about in the field of hypnotherapy in particular!! Go have a read:
Why All Hypnotherapists Should Be Able To Spot Logical Fallacies.
This week, my social media output has been filled with memes about hypnosis, photos from my running schedule and loads of articles from our vaults (including some really controversial ones from the past few years!!) and
some other bits and pieces.
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This week a couple of quotes from some of my favourite comedians about arguing, seeing as we were on that topic....
In Vegas, I got into a long argument with the man at the roulette wheel over what I considered to be an odd number.
- Steven Wright
I was driving in Manhattan. There's traffic, nobody's moving... The guy behind me is honking just at me. He kept yelling at me. I decided that I'm gonna argue with this guy, but I'm gonna argue about something else. I'm not having his argument; I'm having mine. So, he's like, 'Go!' And I go, 'Well give me back my jacket!' And he stopped. I was like,
'Yeah, you got my jacket! Give it back! I said you could borrow it, not have it! You're stretching it out, you fat pig! Give it back, now!' He got back in his car, and he locked his doors. - Louis C. K.
Never argue with an idiot. They will only bring you down to their level and beat
you with experience.
- George Carlin
I had an argument with my father. I argued that Plato was the Father of Philosophy. My dad takes the opposite position: that I should wax the kitchen floor. I said, “Well, the kitchen floor doesn’t exist, at least not in the permanent
sense that the concept ‘floor’ does.” He said “Do you think the concept ‘your skull’ exists?” I said “Yes.” And then he surprised me by juxtaposing the two concepts.
- Emo Philips
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I shall be back next week; in the meantime, I thank you for being a very valued reader, I appreciate you and hope to reward you greatly going forward with all that we offer here, I send you much love and my very best wishes,
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