Hello - Hello and welcome to this week's edition of Adam Up. Whether you are a hypnotherapist or not, you'll benefit greatly from reading this artilce I wrote earlier this week. In it I write about the dangers of treading water. Not actually treading water, but treading water with your life, with your career and so on. I encounter it so much and I advise strongly against opting too safe in life - learn more, develop more, invest in
yourself instead of wishing your life away or leaving it too long before making strong changes in your life....
Why Is It Dangerous To Tread Water As A Hypnotherapist?
Also,
the hypnosis weekly podcast is back as of tomorrow, so do go and have a listen to the latest edition and get tuned back in as I have some wonderful editions of the podcast coming up in future weeks too: www.hypnosis-weekly.com Prospective Hypnotherapy Diploma Students
We have put together some pdfs to explain the changes we have made to our courses so that they can be carried out partly at home by watching video recordings taken in the classroom and then attending classroom for some practical assessments and core training. We have a couple of offers available on one of the pdfs.
We hope that you will be able to fit in study around your current work and domestic life.
Onto today's Adam Up then....
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Keith has put together a blog today to explain why we have decided to discount our audio hypnosis products. The audios are therapeutic and we want them to be more readily available. See the blog:
http://wats-on.net/2016/02/25/therapeutic-hypnosis-audios/
It is a very typical mindset that is espoused by pop psychology (much more so than evidence based psychology) that we need to deal with our past in order to be happy today. Yet what does it actually mean to 'deal' with it? The past is certainly not to be dismissed out of hand, it is to be respected, yet we all also need to be aware of how to take responsibility for who we are today and recognise that we do actually have a choice and an
ability to create who we are.
Are you haunted by your past? Do the ghosts of yesterday hang around, murmuring and moaning about old wounds and hurts; regrets about the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do?
Do they jab you with their pointy stick of guilt and shame for good
measure? Perhaps it’s something about the end of a long-term relationship, with all the grief and loss that goes with that; or a dysfunctional family experience, the less than perfect parents or siblings, or the doctors that let you down and make you angry…. Very angry, or sad, or anxious, or upset.
Better with, or better
without?
Be honest, when you think about those aspects of your life from the past, does it make you feel better, or worse? It’s like when you go for an eye test and the optician asks you to read the letters on the screen, and the lens is changed, asking, ‘better with… or better without?’ Think about it, would you be better without the regrets of the past? What if you could get rid of those negative demons,
for good? Or at least alter your perception of them. What if you could simply change the lens through which you choose to view the world?
Weighed Down:
Anger, regret, guilt and shame weigh us down If you imagine climbing to a high, snow-capped summit with a backpack filled with rocks, you’ll eventually realise that rocky burden is going to slow you down, making the climb so much tougher than it need be. The good news is, we have more choice about the contents of our backpack than we usually realise. So often we
live our lives in a prison of our own making and can't see that we are actually holding the key in our own hand.
Remaining imprisoned by the burdens and regrets of the past is like wearing our own set of shackles, having a personal cloud hovering over us; or our very own black dog of depression as an unwanted
companion.
I am filled with metaphor today! Life Is A Journey:
Human beings are naturally goal focused. On our journey through life, our emotional and psychological health is represented by a forward, outward, upward mind-set. We look forward to activities, progressive stages of life and outings. We focus outward on connecting with family, friends, work and hobbies, and we set our sights upward on ambitions, goals and achievements.
If
you are spending too much time looking in the mirror and not enough looking out of the window, it might be time to stop, notice your choices and reclaim some control. When we only look back, we tend to blame the past and some significant elements of the past….
Parents:
It’s a fact that, when we arrive in this
world, there's no guarantee we will be on the receiving end of good parenting. However, having a child does not automatically make you a better parent, just like having a digital grand piano does not turn you into a concert pianist.
Research suggests that more than 70% of people believe their family was dysfunctional in some way, so you are not alone. We should all thank our parents for a very
real gift. Sometimes they teach us how to do it, and sometimes they give us a clear picture of how it should not be done so that we can choose to do it differently for our own children.
At what stage can we start taking control of our own life and stop blaming parents for making us as we are?
Partners:
Perhaps you really were the one wronged; someone let you down,
betrayed your trust, and you're still feeling the repercussions of that. You simply cannot just shut the door to your past, because some of that past is still in your life.
We pick up scars along the way; the scar on our knee where we fell over on the beach when we were twelve, the stretch marks, the bald
patch, and the laughter lines.
As we make our way through life, life leaves its marks on us, both physical and emotional; we need to appreciate or even celebrate those scars.
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Important Key:
Hiding in plain sight is a key point we all need to know. It's this: No one can hurt you without your permission. Holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal or drinking poison to harm your perceived enemies. Either way, it's you that gets harmed in the long run. The Evidence:
Psychodynamic approaches to therapy, whereby you
regurgitate your past, are proven to be highly flawed and lacking in evidence. In my own field of hypnotherapy, regressive and psycho-analytical approaches lack quality evidence to support them yet are still taught without any accompanying critique by a great many hypnotherapy schools and colleges. These kinds of approaches, among numerous other criticisms, tend to permit people to blame their past and make the past responsible for who they have become and who they are. Of course we are products
of our experience, but we do not have to be passive recipients of how the past continues to shape us.
You may like to visit these articles I have written on the subject before if you are interested in exploring this further, though they are a digression from today’s article:
c) You may also enjoy listening to this interview I conducted with regression proponent Roy Hunter whereby I outline the critique of regression too.
5 Ways To Alter Your Perception Of The Past: |
1. Recognising The Issue:
Your brain is an incredible thing, it is wonderfully fantastical. When we ruminate and allow thoughts to run riot
inside our heads, we can end up just creating more to get angry, upset or worried about and lead to further doubting of ourselves.
That rumination and constant reminding of those memories just makes life harder and harder. It retraumatises you each time, and what’s more, you run the risk of making the memory worse
than the experience actually was. Science has proven memory to be reconstructive and we end up reconstructing the past in ways that adhere to our confirmation bias - allowing us to blame the past with more conviction.
You need to get rid of those negative thoughts and beliefs. You need to let go and start creating
the bright future you want. Making the initial decision to recognise your own thoughts and the damage they are doing is the first step to taking responsibility for your ongoing experience of life.
2. Thought Stopping:
That angry, frustrated or bitter inner dialogue can leave us feeling permanently irritated and down. In our minds, we are either beating ourselves up or beating up others. Perhaps it’s time to be a little kinder to yourself and others.
Initially, learn to spot your own thoughts; use mindfulness, use thought awareness experiments. Then as you recognise them, you can do something about them. Here is a great self-hypnosis technique to help you spot thinking errors:
We often refer to problematic thoughts as automatic thoughts, because we’ve become so good at thinking certain things, we automatically think that way. When thoughts happen automatically, we tend to be less vigilant towards them, we let them pass, we almost accept them. Having learned how to be more aware of our own thoughts, and accepted that they contribute to our
problems.
Accept we all make mistakes. If you notice those same old negative thoughts keep popping into your head, simply say the word ‘STOP’ to yourself and replace those thoughts with something more positive and affirming. Choose to be your own best friend, instead of your own worst enemy. Here is a great article
showing you how to do thought stopping for yourself.
Most of the issue will start with your thoughts. Your thoughts about the past, your thoughts in response to the past, your thoughts about apportioning blame, your thoughts about how the past affected who and how you are. Your thoughts will determine your feelings and your feelings will determine your behaviour. You’ll end up behaving in ways that lead to a life that is ultimately not as you wish it to be.
Learn to dispute your thoughts, learn to update your thoughts, learn to accept thoughts instead of fighting them. Here is a great article that shows you a full process of updating your thoughts using A x B = C.
3. Treasure The Good Stuff:
Often we focus on all the negatives about the past; the end of a relationship and all the things that went wrong. A positive memory box is a great way to celebrate either a person or a period in our lives. Pick the things that have a positive perspective and celebrate the past. All experience is about the acquisition of wisdom and learning. You can filter your past in a progressive way
Those past experiences can also be used to make us stronger in some way. Therefore, ask yourself what can be learned from that experience, and how can we choose to let it make us stronger? This reframing of memories is very different to repressing the memories,
though despite popular belief, repressing such memories does not actually necessarily cause us that much harm. Human beings are not, as Freud described, emotionally hydraulic. We are not like a balloon that if squeezed in one place, the air is displaced and shoved somewhere else. Just because something is not vented with emotion, it does not mean it creates another physiological problem somewhere else within us.
4. Let Go:
Today stop looking back and wishing you could change things, or hoping you could somehow go back and do it over again
- you can't That's because you can't go back into the past. You have to let go and move forward. When you keep thinking about the past, or what went wrong you may get upset, you get angry, you worry, you doubt yourself. You wonder how you could make such a mistake. You ask yourself why? But you get no answers. So you keep beating yourself up. Rumination of this kind cripples us.
Let go of the past and what went wrong. Learn from the mistakes of the past and now begin creating the life you want. Once you let go you open the door to receiving what you want, you allow your powers to guide you and bring you a better, more positive and rewarding life.
Many believe that if we stop blaming others that we somehow condone what they did too. This is not the case. By stopping blaming someone, we do not make what they did right. Instead we simply choose to stop letting it negatively and detrimentally effect who we are. We take responsibility for who we are. We start to own our own life.
5. The Best Response:
Zig Ziglar says “mentally strong people avoid giving others the power to
make them feel inferior or bad.” Know that you are in control of your actions and emotions. Remind yourself each day that you have the strength to manage the way you respond to other people and your past. As Zig also says; ”Even when the chips are down and the insults feel personal, successful people find a way to look ahead and ignore the people tearing them down.”
Finally, we can’t change the past, or make it disappear from our minds, but we can start to build a better future by learning from our mistakes and making good choices in the future. And, deep down, in the end, we know the very best response is a life well lived. Learn how to stop blaming, stop letting the past be responsible for who you are and choose to own your life.
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We are developing a series of pdfs that we hope will explain exactly how we are making our training as accessible as possible.
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Hypnosis & The Brain: A Neuro-Scientific Perspective:
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I thought I'd also mention this lecture I am giving next month that is virtually free (£3.50!) to come and enjoy.....
There are many hypnotherapists and clinicians of varying backgrounds using hypnosis
for therapeutic gain and benefit, but do we really have any idea of what is actually happening inside the brain when we are doing so?
Most hypnosis professionals refer to ‘making changes inside the head’ but what changes are actually happening and are they actually happening at all?
In this lecture, you will learn:
- An outline of the relevant brain anatomy when it comes to hypnosis
- An explanation of classic cognitive neuroscience and how it relates to hypnosis.
- If you'd like to read more or if you've like to add yourself to the numbers for this, visit this page at my hypnosis hub
- How hypnosis
is being used to understand much of neuroscience
- A lot of important evidence base and the most pivotal neuroscientific studies.
- The methodologies used in these studies. (They are illuminating and fascinating!)
- The reasons why pain studies have
been historically used to study hypnosis too.
- How the hypnotised brain is actually studied; the pros and cons of such approaches
- How neuroscience disproves a number of classic theories in the field of hypnosis.
This lecture is for anyone
who uses hypnosis, anyone interested in cognitive neuroscience, and anyone who wants to explore what the evidence base tells us happens in the brain when people are hypnotised.
This is a lecture I have not delivered before, it is completely new material and I have no plans to offer it again anywhere else this year.
It’ll be very in-depth, it’ll refer to very credible references and will
delight the hearts and minds of any hypnosis professional.
Come and indulge your inner hypnosis geek and have your own brain stimulated in numerous ways.
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The Bathtub Test
During a visit to the mental asylum, a visitor asked the Director what the criterion was which defined whether or not a patient should be institutionalized.
"Well," said the Director, "we fill up a
bathtub, then we offer a teaspoon, a teacup and a bucket to the patient and ask him or her to empty the bathtub."
"Oh, I understand," said the visitor. "A normal person would use the bucket because it's bigger than the spoon or the teacup."
"No." said the Director, "A normal person would pull the plug. Do you want a bed near the window?"
Hahahaha, I really enjoyed that one, thanks to all of you who send in the jokes, I love getting them
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